The Thing Is...

I have this friend who stuck by me when I was going through this fight with this other friend and when we broke it off this friend stayed with me everyday during lunch so I wouldn't be alone and I honestly appreciate it. But the thing is there were some days when she had to go and do credit recovery because her grades were not the best in the past and so I had to sit alone in the class rooms and I ate alone. And as time passed I got used to doing things on my own and I honestly felt good just being by myself and I also talked to some new people and became more independent compared to when I was still that one girl's friend because I was always next to her and doing things together.. 

When she came back and talked to me at first it was normal but as time passed by I noticed that she became more dependent on me and started to be more clingy towards me. she would say stuff like "you know every time I see you I always smile unconsciously, you know why?" and then she would kind of pet my shoulder and say " It's because you're my frieeeennnnnnnnddd." and i would just awkwardly smile and nod. 
IDK but sometimes the things she does just makes me feel uncomfortable and she's really emotional too and shows too much affection that I don't feel comfortable with and there would be this weird feeling in my stomach. When I sit next to her with my food and start eating she would also get upset that I didn't say hi to her when she was playing her phone with her headphones but then she would say things like "well you know you're more important to me than my phone" and I wouldn't know what to say to her.

 I know sometimes I feel mean just thinking like this when she's just showing that she care but the thing is I don't even know how to act around her because I think about this whenever I see her. 

prom is next week and we were planning to go together but I started to want other people to join us but this girl asked me to join her and I said sure. I asked the friend and she got upset because she said she didn't know who they were. I told her it's okay they're all nice you can make more friends and we kinda got mad at each other. today she sat next to me at lunch and started crying and asked if we were friends. and honestly my mind hesitated but my mouth spoke first and said of course we are and I felt bad because It felt like I was lying to her. 

To be honest Im just so tired of school and putting labels on people you hang out with. always checking to see if you're still their friend. everything.

In the end she told me to have fun at prom and she's not mad at me. she isn't going to prom and I honestly feel like everything is my fault again.



I feel like the worst person alive but in the end I can't change the way I feel about her or this situation.
SomeHowAwesome
7 months ago
Instilled not enstuin*
SomeHowAwesome
7 months ago
Maybe because I’m a bit older or I’m cynical, but that seems extremely manipulative and unhealthy. Around your age, which I’m assuming is about 16 or 17, I would say that around this time, people are very conscious of where they belong. Of course, this doesn’t mean she’s a bad person, she’s probably a sweetheart when it comes down to her intentions. However, she has estuin her head you’re best friends, it’s only natural to get jealous when you make new friends. Change can be scary to some people. On the other hand, you guys are old enough to convey your feelings. Although you might not be able to express yourself the best ways or read social cues as well from what I’ve read, you should still try. If you truly valued your friendship with her, I would say talk to her. Make sure you state that you’re saying this bc you care about her. Don’t try and alienate her but instead use comforting words to help her understand. If it comes to worse and she doesn’t then my next advice would be cut her off. Friends are plenty and you seem like a great person who will make a lot of people happy.
Yultislay89
7 months ago
Idk but I think someone like her is the type that afraid to lose a friend(?) so she tends to be more affectionate. But if you’re uncomfortable you should probably tell her, I mean, even if she’s emotional, telling what you really feel is so much better~ maybe she’ll understand
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Datboiyoongz 8 months ago
It’s ok it will all go away