Too Quiet

Guys, what would you think if in your class, there's this one girl who's so quiet,like too quiet and she even like to isolate herself from others ? She will smile and greet you back if you do it first but most of the time she is just too distant. The lecturers seem to have a liking to her though.. I'm just very curious about how I should view her
So please..if you were to be me,tell me what you'll think of her and what you'll do
WhiteTinkerbell88
1 month ago
tl;dr Approach her but dont force her to speak. Allow her to take her time and I'm sure she'll open up to you once she sees your willingness to listen.
WhiteTinkerbell88
1 month ago
This reminded me of my eighth grade self. I was too afraid to make friends bec I felt like I didn't fit in. My one and only bestfriend migrated that year and that was the time I realized I had no other friends/I forgot how to make new friends bec we always stuck together. My classmates all had their own cliques already so nobody would ask me out. Unlike them who were bright and talkative, I felt like I would just ruin the mood with my silence. My self-esteem was at its lowest. But I had this classmate who would quietly sit beside me during break times and chat with me. Whenever he asks me out for lunch, I would politely decline bec I felt like I was intruding his group of friends. He understood but kept asking me anyway everyday until I finally agreed to join them. He would include me in conversations and approach me first. I'm thankful bec he helped me open up and be comfortable with new people. As an introvert, I'm quiet not bec I've nothing to say but bec I haven't found the right person to confide with. Be that person! Approach her but dont force her to speak. Allow her to take her time and I'm sure she'll open up to you once she sees your willingness to listen. Also, try to talk about interesting topics instead of the usual small talk. Most importantly, pls pls try not to make fun of her unusual acts. For example, it's the first time you hear her laughz and you go like "omg i didnt know you could laugh." We dont need more people judging us bec we judge ourselves harsh enough I swear. Keep it casual and laugh along. Its more likely just her real self oozing out and she's just testing if you're ready to accept her true colors.
382-ren
2 months ago
I think you can search for some common point with her. Basically they like something others not much into. Takes hint on what she always bring. Little things like keychain, or phone background help for you to figure her out. Sometimes peak on what she looks on her phone. Lol.

If she looks distance. It must be your thinking and her own nature. For her, everyone will be like normal standing. And you need to be clear to her. Like go on and say "hey, let's be friend. Like real friend and not just normal friend to stranger" silence type of person, need clarification on relationship. When they confirm it, they will be themselves in front of you. More open and makes you feel you're not that distance. Then you must slowly work that distance away. ^^
382-ren
2 months ago
You can think that she just not fit in with others. People has some kind of environment that they comfortable with. And for her, people around her is just people she not yet comfortable with.
Sunniyu
2 months ago
Well, some people don't like to interact as much as others. Maybe she just prefers to be isolated, or maybe she doesn't feel comfortable around everyone yet. Coming from a person who isn't very fond of social situations, I'd say you should greet her lightly, maybe initiate some small talk, and see how she reacts. A lot of people won't talk unless they're spoken to.
bluegirl317
2 months ago
@KwonJiyongsWaifu Huhu...I'll try to
KwonJiyongsWaifu
2 months ago
Don't give up. Keep talking to her and greeting her, and once she gets used to you, she'll warm up to you.
My best friend was like that in the beginning, and now we are still strong after 12 years!
bluegirl317
2 months ago
@Jessiecho Yupp! will try to :)
Jessiecho
2 months ago
@bluegirl317 Just give me an update if what happened when you try again, ok? :)
bluegirl317
2 months ago
@Jessiecho Huhu I really hope so.. wish she can give me a chance
bluegirl317
2 months ago
@Shadowmai I have a feeling that she will be.. :)
Jessiecho
2 months ago
@bluegirl317 Awww. Then maybe you should change the way you approach like what @Shadowmai said :) Just give her a second chance. I'm pretty sure you want to be her friend because you reaaally care about her. And if she knows that you care that much, she would really appreciate you! 😊😊😊
Shadowmai
2 months ago
@bluegirl317 Yeah you will, but once you get to know an introvert they are actually pretty crazy
bluegirl317
2 months ago
@Shadowmai Huhu I see...I'll have to change my way of approaching then
bluegirl317
2 months ago
@Jessiecho I did try but it doesn't seem like she likes me that much :(
Shadowmai
2 months ago
@bluegirl317 Then maybe try to approach her, dont be like... super excited to talk to her.. just kinda like. Be calm and casual, ask her if you guys could be friends. As an introvert myself... it scares me when people come at me really excited to talk to me and stuff like that because im so... bleh. Ya know? It scares me and i end up freaking out because maybe they have high expectations
Jessiecho
2 months ago
@bluegirl317 Haha I'm sure she resembles my aura as well. But don't worry. You won't know unless you try! 😊😊😊
bluegirl317
2 months ago
@Shadowmai I see..but I really want to be friends with her because idk..I feel like she just have so much that she is good at? Like..she never really respond in our class group chat but when she does,her respond always awe the rest of us..it feels like such a waste for her to spend most of her time alone.. Also..i kinda notice that she really love observing people and sometimes she would smile or even giggle to herself and that makes me super duper curious..what is it that amuses her??
Shadowmai
2 months ago
@bluegirl317 She probably has anxiety, is an introvert and a book worm, that is if the lecturers like her. Theres absolutely nothing to be scared of shes just a human being with fears and feelings of her own. She might even be scared of you too. If she gives off a 'dont bother me' aura then listen to it, just let her be.

Its just a human thing. We all have our issues, not all of us can bring ourselves to be social butterflies. Actually alot of us find it hard to even approach other people...
bluegirl317
2 months ago
@Jessiecho But I'm kinda scared... She have this don't bother me aura around her and idk..I feel like I might annoy her?
Jessiecho
2 months ago
Hi there, I kind of think I'm like that girl tho. I think she's not really distant, she just enjoys solitude. But that doesn't mean she doesn't want to be friends with everyone. If you really want to be her friend, just make the first move! :) Who knows, she might be fun to be with!