We all learn things when we're growing up about life, how we are shielded from harsh realities and feeling lost in the world. But then comes a shocking moment where a everything stops and all you can hear is that deafening silence that breaks you completely. I've recently went through a situtation where in relationships or marriages cause friction, adultery, deception but the worst thing for me was being constantly lied to and that person left everything behind while I'm left to pick up the pieces from that shattered trust and painful betrayal.

That person who I was married to had problems but never used to address them, such as money, intimacy and personal issues and had the mentality of "real men don't feel pain" but it was weakness from his mind. He never owned up to his mistakes and once was confronted with his gambling addiction which was a sin in my religion and after a visit to America during months ago, he had the stupid yet misguided idea of making a new life to gain more money in the States, but it was such a ridiculous thought since I had a good job and my family is here in the UK. During September, he did the unthinkable to literally run off to America and left me on my own after lying to me that he was staying at a friend's house. My parents and the rest of my family were completely shocked by this stunt and then he chose to criticise how the grown-ups didn't give him attention, treating him unfairly and he even spread fake rumours about my uncle and my sister's persona which went too far.

I also gave him a benefit of the doubt but he proved me wrong which broke me completely that he was nothing but a coward of a snake who talked bad behind my family's back. The next day, it felt like I was going 5 stages of grief but the only thing that died on the day was my marriage and trust. We all suffered due to his jealousy and callous attitude since he couldn't get a good job, take care of the house and is constantly late to work in the evening shift at his other work. The week after followed me taking care of myself mentally and I'm glad that my parents gave me a room to stay since it was no use for me to stay in a rented house. I packed the rest of my things into my parent's house and threw the douchebag's belongings in a dustbin bag for donation. After the shocking stunt he pulled, there was no way he will be coming back into the house again.

At work, I was back with a vengeance after taking a mental rest and scored higher number for hotel bookings and also created games within my team to gain extra money for the incentives. At the same time, I was looking to progress to a different role and finally found an opportunity for a new role in the same building but in a different office with a higher pay. After the whole drama going on few weeks before, I had managed to apply for the job role within a short amount of time and a week later, I had received a call for an interview. During that week, I had a weird headache that caused to vomit and had to call off from work and the interview was only a day away. Despite of my sickness, I managed to go through my notes and practice my answers for the big day and luckily I had recovered on the day and managed to arrive early for the interview. Even though I was nervous and waffled through my words, it went okay after a week later due to a surprising feedback, I finally got the job and will be starting soon at the end of October.

Irony is a very strange thing, it comes unexpectedly when you don't even know if it's a good thing or not. That coward was nothing but a good for nothing jinx and once he came into my life, I had lost a job and went through agonising months of legalising his VISA to stay in the UK. When it came to applying for another set of jobs, I kept on getting rejected despite going well in interviews but whenever he wasn't around in person, I actually do well at work and managed to secure a job with a decent pay.

What's more surprising is that even though the job was on a contact, the job has now changed into a permanant due to recent changes in the department and finally secured a role before I even started. Even though I struggled few years ago, I have finally paid my dues and worked hard for myself and with my own merit. I thought that after turning 30, my life would not be exciting as much but after many incidents and events in the last few months, I feel it has become a huge blessing for me and helped me to be brave, wise and more experienced with life and hope that my future will be bright as a new 30-something adult.