Reasons I haven't been around...

Hi everyone, 

I guess I just wanted to give you guys a quick update as to why I haven't updated in so long. The beginning of this year has been tough for me. I lost my job at the begnning of the new year -- thankful with the help of my family I was able to get a new one -- unfortunately it is not in my field of study, but even now I am still applying to various jobs that are more suited to my knowledge and skills.

Then, my father had a major in Feb that left him hospital bound for a month and a half. He was unresponsive for a good portion of it and being his only child, I immediately became his caregiver. Unfortunately my dad never thought anything bad would happen to him, so he refused to make a Will or appoint me power of attorney (for those that don't know, a power of attorney can be appointed by anyone - normally its children or family members, and they are able to make all financial and medical decisions in your name.) Because we did not have the opportunity, I have been fighting for the ast 4 - 5 months to take control of his finances and make decisions in regards to his medical needs without help from the rest of his family. 

I had to move my father from one hospital to another, fight with doctors and nurses who were not treating him right, staying at the hospital every day and night just to make sure he would make it to morning. Then having to move him (everything of his) out of his apartment into storage, then close out the apartment, notfiy family and friends, notify people he owed bills to, close out accounts, move his bi-polar 60 year old brother out of the apartment too. Then take my father to doctors appointments and meet with doctors about his care and medicines. Then finally, FINALLY move him into a nursing home where he is successfully receving therapy. 

He has done a complete 180 and is able to walk, talk, eat, and basically be back to his normal self with a few...gaps. His short term memory is kinda gone, but his long term memory is still intact. He use to be an artist and graphic designer, now he can barely tell you what color crayon he has or draw a circle. Its heartbreaking since many of you know that my father was my inspiration to become a filmmaker and artist myself. Then doing all of this and go to my fulltime job. Alot is an understatment. 

So i guess that's it, the reason I haven't been posting or even really wrting for that matter. Even when I want to I get home and fall asleep before the first sentence is even written. 

But fear not, as my father will survive and endure, so will I. Once many of these financial and medical issues have been resolved within the next month or so, I will be right back at writing and giving you my 110%! I miss you all so much and I miss writing for you guys even more. Please keep me and my father in your thoughts and please send me what strength and light you can offer to help my dad and allow me to writing once more.

 

With all my love,

~S.I.R.

 

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coffeeinseoul
#1
On a whim I logged back into this site since I hadn't heard from you in awhile, I wanted to check in and make sure you were okay. Hon, I can't even imagine all the struggle and hardship you had to go through this year, I'm so so sorry that you have had to shoulder so much responsibility. To think that you had to do it all virtually on your owns breaks my heart even more. Please know that if you ever need to reach out to vent, I'm just an email away. I'm so glad to hear that you Dad has made great improvements-- are a hard thing to come back from but with time and persistence many can make great strides to restoring their ability to do everyday tasks that we don't often think about. I'll be keeping you and your father in my prayers <3 Love ya girl.
MrsLeeTaemin
#2
I just now saw this!!! I love you!!
Bandur_456
#3
I hope that everything will be okay enough for you to feel well and not stressed. I'm so sorry to hear that so many sad thing happened to you...
Stay strong!
shojinryori #4
My dear, that’s too much for one person to bear! Thank you for sharing it with us. I send all best wishes to you and your father, and sincerely hope your year gets better and better.