Need break-up advice

If you haven't read my other blog where I write about getting cheated on please go read that first before this one!

Okay ever since the guy cheated on me and broke it off I can't stop thinking about him. Like I want to hate him but something in my heart is causing me to not hate him. I didn't know my feelings for him had grown strong for him through out the two months we were talking but not as an official couple. Through text messages he would text me, "I love you." I cringe seeing those texts because I'm not your girly/loving girl. Reading his text messages to the girl really broke my heart. Like I have never cried for a guy for two days straight. The guy really broke me and has caused me to feel so many emotions I have never felt. I want him to know what I am feeling after he did that to me. As I keep hurting he is nothing but happy because he is still talking to the girl. He is the only thing on my mind and how he broke my heart. I want to hate him so much but I just can't because I guess it's hard for me to move on. Guys thinks it's really easy for girls to move on but it really isn't . We don't just throw away everything we had with that specific guy. It takes time for us to move on. I just really want to get back at him so bad but if I started talking to another guy it would really messed up to the new guy and to myself. How am I supposed to heal? How long is it going to take until I get over the guy? Will I ever move on? Please comment below what I should do.

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angelicbaby #1 Jul 5, 2018 15:12:33

Hey random commenter passing by, I just read the blog you mmentioned and hon, he is a TOTAL JERK. Just cry everything out and I promise you that one day you'll wonder why you even went on with him.
I myself was so inlove with someone before and I cried for 3 days straight and time went on and I almost forgot his name now. I was inlove with him for like 2 years.
Hon, the right guy will come along even if you didn't expect it to be him. Just distract yourself likeee aalooot for now and some time from now , you'll feel much much better. You can get over this, I know you can. <3

silvereternity #2 Jul 5, 2018 01:15:18

I'm sorry that this happened to you, being cheated on truly is one of the worst things somebody can do to you. However that also means that he is not the kind of person you would want to have in your life for a longer time, if he doesn't even bother to break up with you before starting a relationship with someone else he is not "the one". I know things always seem different if you're currently going through them, and you have every right to feel heartbroken, but the very best way of healing is time and distance. And you will move on, maybe not today or tomorrow, but some day you'll look back on this and be glad that you've gotten rid of him.
I myself haven't gone through quite the same situation but there has been a time when I was seriously crushing on (in a way, you could probably say in love with) a guy that actually was in love with one of my best friends, one-sided. It hurt, and while I love my friend as a person, I couldn't help but feel jealous and compare myself to her. It was all sorts of awful. And I feel you about being hurt, being in a situation like this really does feel in a way like the world is ending, no matter how irrational it seems. But, as they say, everything passes - it may pass like a kidney stone, but it passes. I don't have any personal experiences with kidney stones, but I have found that to be true in both love situations and embarrassing -ups. Time is your best friend and for the moment, it's probably best to distance yourself from him. Try to distract yourself, do whatever makes you happy, and sooner or later, you will find yourself getting over him.