Diaries of a single lady

Do you ever long to be in a relationship? Do you ever wish you had someone to love and cuddle and share a life with?

I do. I think about it a lot. Sometimes I tell myself, I don't have time for a boyfriend. And other times, I want to always have someone to spend time with me and to worry about me. W

I haven't been looking for a special someone. I don't know how. I don't feel like it. I don't want to play games.

Truthfully, I want a chill relationship. I want someone I can go out to eat with. Try new places and foods. I want someone to be bold with, go skydiving one day or go travel a foreign country. I want someone to be comfortable with. I can say what I like, do what I do, talk, relax, and be honest with. That's hard for me. I am a very reserved person. I keep things from people that I've known years. The only person I am fully comfortable with is myself. It will take months for me to get comfortable with someone. And it's also hard for me to think about committing that much time and effort into something that might not last more than a few months. I want to be in a relationship but I don't know how to go about it. It's almost scary to think about. I don't know how to flirt, I'm very reserved, and I don't want to waste my time.

I'm somewhat an eccentric person. I like things most people don't. I'm introverted. I like anime, Kpop, and weird documentaries. I'm non-religious. I don't want to take my husband's name. I have strong political opinions. These things are quite uncommon and can scare people away. I don't act like most girls and I'm not attracted to most guys. This further discourages me from trying to date. My significant other would have to be ok with that.

In a relationship I want trust and no drama. I can't give my all if I can't trust you. I want open-mindedness. I want someone with goals. I want someone to push me out my comfort zone. I want someone to better me and me better him. I don't want that he said she said . I want fun and passion. I feel like I would be such a great girlfriend. If I love a person I will do a lot for them. I want to experience love. Real love. It's almost impossible to want such a high class relationship at this age. Most people my age are stuck in these wannabe relationships. I want more than that.

I am a firm believer of things working out for the best most of the time. I feel like everything will fit into place. I mean, I picked a college, a major, I have a job. I made friends in college. I'm becoming less reserved. I'm not looking for Mr. Perfect. Hell, no one's perfect. I'm looking for someone I can grow with.

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Maryam_VS #1 Aug 1, 2017 19:48:45

Wow, well you're not the only one feeling this way. I've had some moments when I would think about it, but now as I'm maturing, it doesn't really bother me as much. Sure, wanting to feel loved and special isn't a bad thing at all. It's actually completely normal. Even if you're a reserved person and not very upfront with your feelings, eventually a day will come when the person you'll want to be with come unexpectedly. Don't think about it too much and you'll feel much better. Though I know it's easier said than done. It gets better.

Magandame #2 Jul 31, 2017 07:02:16

I feel you too, like to some extent.. I want to experience being in relationship tho I wouldn't rush it since I'm still "young," I'm a senior in high school, but at the same time, I wanted to experience how it feels to be in relationship in high school.. I get jealous to other people who have someone to walk with them otw home, I wanted to hang out on weekends besides your friends, and just have someone be there and talk to u, understand u, and listen to u, when no one is there. But then again, I never really like someone before to the extent of asking them out or smth. I'm really picky and old fashion when it comes to dating. And it's really hard for me to come out of my comfort zone and I'm not really the type of person who approach people at first..
I know that mine is still in a lower level than yours but yea, I totally understand you, and I do wanted to experience those stuff (traveling, skydiving, etc) too with the person I like.

MissMinew #3 Jul 31, 2017 06:01:18

I feel you. Like I genuinely feel you. Except I have started to wonder if I'm aromantic. I want all the things you want as well, as close to at least. But whenever someone shows interest in me (and while it happens rarely, it happens) I pull away like the thought of romance has burned me. It takes forever for me to love and sometimes I question if it was really actually love in the first place. Although being aro also kind of scares me lol.
I just see so many of my friends and old classmates get married and have kids and I think to myself "I want that too" and I want that chill relationship where we better one another, fits together perfectly.
Oh well, you're not alone is what I'm trying to say. (Although I've acknowledged that ual attraction just isn't something I'll look for when I talk to people because I'm demiual and it won't happen on first sight.)