OF COURSE YOU DON'T HAVE TO AGREE


I just read a fanfic story (which will remain anonymous) that had a love triangle slip into the main plot line. I got halfway through the story until I couldn’t stand it any longer and closed the safari window. 

Love triangles appear in so many books, especially YA books these days that I just end up getting sick of. My reason here is because usually the love triangle consists of a girl and two boys lusting after her. And then the girl has the tendency to play both of their feelings, leading the poor boys on until the end and somehow everyone is happy and everything is okay??? Like aren’t you mad that she played you both? And if they are both mad at her, she wonders what she’s done and is distraught because she LOST both of them and can’t handle the fact that they’re mad at her. 

Also, I hate it when a girl knows deep down who she eventually ends up with but plays the other guy’s heart anyway.

I don’t understand.

And yet in a way I do.

Everyone wants to be adored. Everyone wants to be chased because it’s exciting. Everyone wants to be loved so much that they have these fantasies where they think of so many people adoring them but never think of the consequences. 

For example: In this fanfic I read, the girl ended up falling for two boys at the same time. Both lusted after her because of her innocent looks and beauty. She lead each of them on in secret, adoring their care and company, until it finally came down to the where her life was actually a jumbled mess and throughout this mess she must choose which boy to love…and she can’t. 

 

1) she doesn’t know what she wants in life

2) she claims she loves each of their personalities

3) she wants both of them to herself (no I’m serious she states to them both while on a beach “I love both of you, want both of you,m. God is that too much to ask for?).

But then has the audacity to say, "But please, quarrel after everything has settled.” 
Like girl, you realize you just set yourself up for disaster. You tell each of them “I love you so much” but then when you’re about to look death in the face you say, “Please don’t fight, it won’t help any of our causes.” Like you do realize this was going to happen from the start, right?
It’s like she doesn’t even comprehend the fact that yeah, duh, they’re gonna fight over you. You can’t just think “Oh they’re gonna chase me for the rest of their life and I’m going to love the attention.” 

I cannot STRESS how POSSESSIVE and GREEDY that type of thinking is. 

And yet we do it. 

Second reason why I hate love triangles: the competitors are so DETERMINED to win, despite the consequences. 
Such as:

 

1) You both will die for him/her

2) One ends up becoming the villain to get what he/she wants

3) Two best friends become enemies

 

The one type of love triangle I absolutely CANNOT stand is when the middle person ends up throwing two BEST FRIENDS against each. Do not mess with friendship!! Personally, friendship is more important than love and if you’re going to destroy someone’s friendship (whether you’re oblivious or not) and think that’s perfectly okay…I can’t…I don’t understand how some people can think like that. 

Or sometimes, the love triangle consists of two girls and one boy in the middle. 

Yeah, I get it, he wants to be adored. Yet in the end he ends up hurting both of them and kisses both of them, plays both of them, has with both of them like he can do whatever he likes. No. Just no. Stop playing with ANYONES’ heart for that matter. 

Also, what are the percentages for a love triangle to happen in real life? Now I’m sure there are way more than I’ve seen or witnessed, but I knew one love triangle that happened to a personal friend, and one happened to me…didn't last long.
For her, she played both of them. In the end ranting to me how she liked being adored, even though she knew it was a stupid idea. I asked her how she solved it, and she told me “I didn’t. They still hate each other and hate me too…Why are they mad at me?” 

For my problem I stepped back because he just wanted to boast that he won.

I was having none of it. 

I’m sure everyone else has their own opinions. If you do, feel free to tell me. I love hearing what other people think. Even if you completely disagree with my opinion on love triangles, so what? Tell me, I won’t argue back though, but I will definitely read what you say. 
PS. When will there be a book with LGBT love triangles?

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ellipsism #1
I hate it when the two guys are best friends. I can't bare to read those types of stories :/
Minted #2
I am guilty of this for my favourite character. In my eyes, that character deserves all the attention and love the world can give. But that and projecting yourself to that character are wholly different things. It's committing Mary Sue / Gray Stu. Disturbingly flawless character in a fic? If it's subtle, I'll forgive it and read on, but if the author is blatantly fantasizing about being that character who receives aforementioned attention and love, I'll move on to another read in a heartbeat. I get turned off with Reader or OC pairs for this reason... (and even though I understand the appeal, I can't stand 'Y/N' stuff on social media)

As for love triangles in a story, I get it if the person of affection is not aware of it at all, otherwise, I will think s/he's only allowing this because s/he's an attention-seeker and is putting him/herself up as a trophy. Sorry for the word, but I think it's tasteless. And the other two who are fighting over him/her just for a score? That doesn't sound sincere at all, does it? I remember being in the same situation and was turned off. I am not a prize you can 'win' because you have better points. That's fcked up.

Now that I think back on it, there was once a local TV show that showed a perfect example of this. The girl put a tally board in her room and would add points (like the tool she is) whenever person A or person B treated her nicely. I remember that sht 'cause the single-digit child me found that convenient, but of course I grew (there was no internet then), and am now disgusted by that narcissistic sht they showed on TV to young impressionable audience.
MinnieCrafts #3
LOL you know you're guilty when you read the blog and immediately think about your own story HAHA
(But I did put in my own twist, having two guy best friends chase after another guy, without the guy knowing that they all knew each other, but I still felt guilty reading this lmao)
I honesty get what you're saying, and I totally agree. But idk, I feel like a lot of people write triangle love stories because it relates to the readers a lot because it also happens a lot in real life? for an example, you have experience this, and the person who commented before me have also experienced this. And surprise surprise, I've also been in the same situation. I think that's part of the reason why people tend to write a lot of the same love triangle stories.
baekyuu #4
whoah, i definitely see where you're coming from. whilst it's also greedy (and actually kinda cruel) to, say, play with both persons who have a crush on you, i can see why it happens? because we literally need attention. i dont know about others but i'd definitely bask in attention if i get it. in the meanwhile, whilst it's cliché and rather cruel (why im sort of writing a fic about a subtle love triangle lol what am i saying), i get the viewpoint. especially if it's the situation wherein nobody really kinda likes you and suddenly two people love you and youre just like "whew, but i thought nobody liked me and it's a dream-come-true!" sort of thing?

i'd been in that sort of situation. sorta, i guess? the beginnings of it at least. two girls (whoah, twin sisters) kind of chased after me. since i was gay i kinda freaked out and shook my head at both of them. i feel bad afterwards (why, i feel bad after everything i do) but i guess this is a different circumstance wherein my ual orientation doesnt match situations. actually, thinking about it, wouldnt it be great if we have a girl protagonist with two guys listing after her, and when finally they both confess she turns around and said "whoah guys, didnt you know i was lesbian?" and then suddenly pulls out her girlfriend out of nowhere. like whoo damn she's gonna turn them down in the first place anyways. (pfffh i would read the hell out of that).

anyways, but yeah. i totally see what you mean. whilst the attention is nice, you sort of feel cruel about it.
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