Reality hitting me hard

I am here to just let out my opinion about my fandom (ELF) and the Kpop culture.

Sungmin's Dating 'Scandal'/ Marriage.

First off. How can dating be a scandal? It should be a good news right? A good news where we tease them for being together. It's just like seeing your bestfriend finally dating someone he's been liking.

I know why all of us are acting like this. (Yep, including me. I was like "WHY ARE YOU DATING?! YOU CAN'T DATE!"  at first.) It's because of the Kpop culture we've come to know to and coped up with. We've come to know kpop wherein idols are so thanking their fans with the words "I LOVE YOU". Their I love you's meant THANK YOU; our I love you's meant I REALLY LOVE YOU. Just look at the Hollywood stars, or probably your own country's artists. When we found out that they're dating someone, we're just cool about it, right? We don't really care, as a matter of fact. But with our oppars/eonnies, it's different. And again, it's because we've gotten used to them, being publicly single and only 'loving' their fans.

Second, his marriage. I know, it was shocking to the point that we thought it was a shotgun marriage. But it was not.

Marriage is a supposed happy announcement and event, right? We should be happy for them and give our blessings.

We even have this fantasy wherein someday, we could marry our bias, that we can have a happily everafter. But I'm sorry to wake us up to the reality that we can't. Yes we have a chance. Especially when we you're off the opposite with your bias, but come on. The chance would be 0.000000001%. There are a lot of people surrounding them, beautiful people even. How can they notice us? Maybe they can, for a short period of time, but come on. It's like seeing a gorgeous guy at a mall, and staring him for a while just because he is attractive. After that, you may tell that 'story' to your friends, but after a fews days, or weeks, you forgot about him. Or maybe you wouldn't, but that 'story' won't be a big deal to you anymore. And in oppa's case, he sees you because you caught his attention, maybe you are pretty or you did something funny or eye-catching, and after that, he will tell it to the other members, and forget about it. What I'm trying to say is, you may find each other attractive or even more, but that doesn't mean he wants to marry you/us. Oppa has a life, a way different and complicated than what we have. We should just understand.

 

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I know you may see this a lot, but oppars are just like you and me. They are beautiful people who pursued their dreams, and happened to receive a lot of love from their supporters. They are singing, dancing, hosting, entertaining and everything because that's their dream, and not because of us. Yes, sometimes they consider our opinions when it comes to the concert song line-ups or other things, but that's because they want us to be happy. They are thankful that we are here for them,  and not because they love love us. They may love us a fan or even friend, but that's all, nothing more.

"It is your choice to like him, he did not force you, it is your choice to spend those money, he did not force you. All these years you have become poo(er), he has become rich(er), and it was also your choice. He is rich and found a good person to marry, he will not care about what you think, so from the moment you start to chase, you should have understood this, everything was your choice, no one forced you."

Reality is hitting us hard right now because we love them. We are just trying to protect them by marrying us, instead. But we need to remember that they just can't. They love someone else and we cannot do anything about that. It's a sad reality that we should accept. We probably can't do it wholeheartedly, but as the time passes by, I know you can, we can. We just have to be strong because "letting them go doesn't mean we don't love them. It just means that we love them so much that we want them to be happy."

We should probably start dating so that we could understand him, right? Sungmin said he is happy with Sa Eun. If he is, we should trust him. We trust our oppas, right? For me, even though I don't fully trust Sa Eun, but because Sungmin oppa does, I'll try to be happy for them.

If you have time, but I suggest you watch this video, it's really great I tell you. :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfKI8yvJ59g&list=LLi4vnDLb-faO6ti9HNopuIA&index=277

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