I never saw this side of my mum before... honestly I dont really know my dads side of the family. They were always built up to be the bad guys- my mum and dad stopped talking to them a long time ago (like almost 30 years ago). But as I grew up I found out lots of little tid bits from my dad about my nan who had the gorgeous name Florence Ada, I used to be baby sat by grandparents on my mothers side when my parents worked and loved classic musicals. As well as music like Frank Sinatra and Abba, because it was my environment. I loved the actress Doris Day from Calamity Jane it was my favourite movie and to this day I still adore it, and my father used to tell me that my nan loved her too and that we had alot of thing in common like our fair hair too! The darkside of this story is that my nan died when my dad was 16, of cancer.(before mum knew dad and the family stopped talking) My dad looked after her because his useless father when off and had an affair with some cheap woman... back to the point. She revealed infront of me and a friend she used to say "At least my mum didn't die of cancer." And her friend laughed. I had a right go saying that's not funny, and they said I didn't understand because I'm young and not in a relationship with someone. Well if that what a relationship entails I'm not having one, she said. "It's fair because dad says she's got a fat ." Am I just over reacting or is commenting about a dead mother worse that saying she has a fat !