Please, anyone .. ?
I don't know what to say, but I guess .. This should be a trigger warning? At least, for me it feels like it should be.
I've been contemplating about writing this, but I feel that now it's my turn to have someone to talk to .. It took me an eternity to write that one sentence, because I had to stop several times to cover my mouth so I wouldn't cry out to loud. I've been awake since 4am, and the clock is about to hit 07am. The reason I'm awake is the same that it has been for about two weeks now .. I keep thinking about him and "what if's"
The first weeks I talked with so many, I got almost 100 messages in my inbox. Everyone trying to express themselves, release some steam. And I allowed it. I don't regret it either. It seems as if it worked for me as a coping mechanism and also helped me keep my mind "off" it in some weird way. I don't even know how to explain it myself because I don't know. When I talked with all those people, it was as if I was still in denial of it. That may have been the reason I didn't suffer as much as I am at the moment. Don't get me wrong, I mourned the first entire week. I cried with my friends while we held hands and watched the memorial. We held hands as we watched the casket being carried. I managed to become slightly stronger, for my friends and those who were desperate for someone to talk to. I was online to answer your questions, to listen to your greif, to understand your pain. To let you speak your mind. Because I said you were not alone. It seems like in all that chaos, I forgot to have someone for me.
I haven't spoken to anyone how I feel. How I have been suffering. How I am grieving.
It took me a lot of courage to listen to his new song, it was an upbeat song. I think it's the first time I cry so hard during such an upbeat song. I then listened to "Before Our Spring" .. Well, I couldn't exactly pass the 10 second mark. I couldn't. When I heard his beautiful laughter, I had to stop. I couldn't handle it. I knew SM had made the video as a kind of tribute for him., so I couldn't watch it. I tried so many times and failed miserably. Though I finally succeeded yesterday. I struggled again, but I managed to listen to the entire song and watch the entire video. I didn't allow myself to stop it. I forced myself to look at it. To listen to it. To suffer through it. Even now while writing this, I'm listening to the song. I liked it so much, and it hurts so bad that I can't watch him take over the stage, win those awards. Show us his beautiful smile which I loved so damn much. It made me realize that this year was supposed to be their 10th year anniversary .. It still is .. But it won't be the same, will it? I'm excited yet dreading that the day comes. We've lost a member in the most horrible way one can imagine and what's worse is that we can't have him back .. No matter how much we pray. No matter how much we cry. No matter how much we beg. He's just .. Gone ..
I was scrolling through instagram a few hours ago, and saw a picture of Taemin and Key together at the airport. It hurt. I can't seem to get excited for their concert. I can't imagine a stage with only four of them. Especially after having remembered that one time they did some stages without Jonhyun and they said it was so diffuclt. That it didn't make sense. That they needed him .. Imagine just how much they must need him now? All the pain they are going through?
I watched the video of the funeral .. It was the first time in months that we had seen Onew. I don't think any fan was expecting to see him in a situation like this. Taemin's face reminded me of myself, blank. Gone. Minho stayed strong as much as he could allow himself .. Knowing how amazing of a gentleman he is, I know he was holding it in so he could comfort So-Dam. So she could cry and lean on his strong shoulders. Seeing Key suddenly break down after holding such a strong appearance ..
I really don't know how I feel. I just cry. And I cry. And I cannot stop. The tears makes my vision blurry. The pain destroys my heart. And the memories linger in my mind.
I've been a kpop fan since 2005. The group that got me into kpop was Super Junior. I discovered SHINee shortly after their first M/V. Damn, I was so happy that Super Junior finally got a little brother group themselves just like TVXQ had them. What I loved the most was all the interaction between them, they all got along so well. Yesung's duet with Jonghyun was such a breathtaking performance. His friendship with all the members made me so happy. The way Leeteuk and Heechul took such good care of him and were so gentle with him made my heart skip a beat. And it pains my heart so much that I won't be able to see that anymore.
I still can't believe it's been a month already. Actually a month and 10 days.
What made me get the courage to write this? I guess it was Kibum. The video he posted with Jonghyun gave me some strength. And I needed to let some things out .. Please, allow me to speak up now. It may be late, and long after .. But I didn't know I'd fall this hard after having held on as long as I did.
I will mention his name for the first time in this post .. My dear Jonghyun .. Are you resting well now? You're not suffering anymore, right? Your singing with angels, right? We're still grieving about your death. I am still grieving about your death. I'll try to become stronger, I promise, my love.
I said it was soon to be 7am and it's well beyond 8am now .. I'll try to sleep now. And thanks beforehand to everyone.
-28.01.18 ; 08.22am-
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