Are my friends fake?

That was literally the question that's been stuck in my mind the whole entire day. I'm in a friendship group of 4, two of which have been friends since they were weeny kiddies. I understand and I accept the fact that I can't interfere with the strong bond they have, but I've always wondered, because they're so close, do they talk about me? So the four of us used to share an account but I barely ever post so I practically not a part of it anymore but I login every once in a while because THE MEMES ARE LIT

I was just looking over the dms because surely, I have to password, we trust each other and don't talk bad about each other, right? IVE NEVER BEEN SO WRONG IN MY LIFE OMG. I look at the group chat and they are both talking about me! And reason why is because I didn't basically talk about another girl over the internet (which is so so stupid!) And the girl they were arguing with was black and one of my friends Said "oh that's why she never talks about the beef" and they were just saying so much , calling me a and all. But forget about that, the thing that irritated me the most was when she said "all black people are the same, the only reason she didn't stick up for you was because the girl was black"

When I say I was livid like honestly I was fuming, what is "all black people are the same" even mean?? I really don't know what I've done wrong, just because I wouldn't chip in and throw an insult or two over the internet about FREAKING KPOP *exhales* I honestly love kpop, but all the fan wars and arguing is just so... Tiring and unnecessary, just love the music and the idol it's not that deep -.-

I just feel very sad and betrayed and a little confused because we've been friends for four years and they block me and then talk about me behind my back? I just don't really know what to do, I don't want 4 years to go down the drain because of internet feuds but I really really don't like them at this moment in time.

If any of the story is unclear then just let me know and I'll explain further

Thank you so much for getting this far <3 love ya lots xoxo

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Moonzy #1
Trash. As someone who has been in your situation before, you don't need them in your life. Yes four years may seem long, but I had to get rid of a 10+ year friendship because that person was toxic in my life. Toxic people are the worst and for your "friends" to turn on you over something stupid, as well as pull out a race card is even more concerning. They are really two faced. I'm sorry for being blunt. I dont know if you're in high school or not, but if so, if you aren't wanting to make new friends while being there- keep them by your side but dont get too close or personal with them. Once graduation comes, dip and never look back. Those friends sound like the people who would support you on your dreams to your face, but would secretly wish for you to fail.

If they were your friends, some internet feud shouldn't have torn your friendship so easily. It just shows that they've been wanting to kick you out of the group for a while. They're mean and you deserve better, more genuine friends.
WalkingAdvice #2
They are fake. First of all, real friends tell you when you've done something they wish you would have done differently, they say it to you, and don't talk sh.t behind your back. Second of all, I recommend you not to hang out with them or so because they are racist. I don't get it why it matters that you're black nor do I get how the "blackness" affects you to be bad. Seriously though... I know a girl who talks sweet to everybody, but behind their backs... And if you decide to hang out or talk to them afterall - DO NOT share your secrets with them
KaiKuzco #3
The general rule is if a friend is talking about someone with you, they're also talking about you with other people. Your "friends" are the kind of people who create drama because they think their own lives are stupid and boring. They thrive in that kind of chaos, which you really don't need tbh. Kudos to you for getting out of that toxic friendship. They're honestly the worst. Don't feel bad about the time you spent with them. They're going to realize one day that you deserved better and they'll start feeling for being ty people.
Lidashen #4
It is better to leave that 4 years as a lesson learn to get to know a certain type of people than keep regretting about it and wanting to reconcile. They're toxic and racist and you shouldn't be around them. Strive to live healthy, and healthy means having healthy relationship, friends that you can share and talk to. In that 4 years, you seemed to not talk to them much for them to badmouth you in such a way, that means communication is lost somewhere. In that 4 years, you should be able to somewhat be brought into their childhood's bond, because it doesn't matter how long they have been friends, once a grown up, you'll find ways to bond with others that made up for those time you never met. These girls are just acquaintance you met on the ways to find your real friends, one that you'll be friends till old age.
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